Still Standing

Vicki Crumpton Metcalfe and Dallas Mavericks J J Barea

If you know me or have been following my blog, you know that my husband and I were in church ministry for over 30 years before being tossed to the curb by a church we’d served faithfully for many years. In short, we are survivors of forced termination which, inevitably, led to early retirement from the pastorate. I’ve come a long way in the years since that painful event, but I’m smart enough to know that I’m not completely healed.

In the darkness when the grief was most intense, I begged God to remove the pain. I guess it’s only natural to ask God to remove pain when it decides to take up permanent residence in our lives. Even the apostle Paul begged God on three different occasions to remove his “thorn” but God simply replied, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness” (2 Cor. 12:9). True to His Word, God’s grace has been sufficient for me. Today there’s a hefty scar instead of the ghastly open wound that shrouded my heart for so long. But you know what? I’m still standing. And for those who experience intense grief, simply standing is a victory.

The Bible says a lot about standing. In 2 Chronicles 20:17, the Lord tells King Jehoshaphat to “Stand firm and see the deliverance the Lord will give you.” In his letter to the church at Corinth, Paul wrote, “stand firm. Let nothing move you” (1 Cor. 15:58) and later he would write “it is by faith you stand firm” (2 Cor. 1:24). And 1 Corinthians 10:12 carries this warning:

“If you think you are standing strong, be careful not to fall” (10:12).

How are we supposed to stand when all we want to do is curl up and cry? How are we supposed to stand when we feel too weak to even sit up? How are we supposed to stand when our faith has been shaken to the core? The answer lies in the photo shared above of Vicki Crumpton Metcalfe, standing with Dallas Mavericks’ player J. J. Barea. I asked her permission to share it with you and am so grateful she agreed.

When you first glance at the photo, odds are the first thing you notice is Vicki’s huge smile. Not only is she a huge Mavericks fan but her family describes her as the self-appointed president of the J. J. Barea Fan Club. So of course she’s smiling! But if you look closely, you’ll see a wheelchair behind her. Because of her horrific battle with cancer, Vicki spends much of her time in that chair. But for this special photo, she wanted to stand. So J. J. Barea leaned down, lifted her out of the wheelchair and kept his arm around her, enabling her to stand.

That, my friend, is how we stand. When we’re hurting, Jesus leans down and lifts us to our feet. We may still grieve, but His strength enables us to stand. With His arm around us, we not only stand, we stand firm.

Thank you, Vicki, for sharing your special photo. What a beautiful representation of our Savior who enables us to stand.


  1. Jennie Jackson

    How do I order Moving On? My husband went to seminary when he retired from the military. He served 17 years as staff at a church here in TX. The new “minister” got rid of nearly all the staff and most of the members. That church finally realized they had made a mistake, but we still hurt. The church committee had been warned that this man had mental problems but this was ignored. Saw a woman at the grocery recently and she asked why and how we were still living here! Really hurt!

    • deanna21

      Jennie, I am so very sorry for your pain. My heart breaks for you and your husband. I will be praying for you as you heal.
      Moving On can be ordered directly from this website (click on the “Purchase Moving On” tab at the top of the page) or you can order it from Amazon.

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